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       Dear Jan and Dean, My husband and I sure enjoy your en-  ior.  Second,  I have to say, both your parents are uncouth, and
       tertaining magazine each month. We haven't seen a ques-  have zero manners.  To act like this is childish, and just plain
       tion like this in your column so I hope you can help us. My  rude.   Do they even use utensil’s at the dinner table, or use their
       husband "Tom" and I get along great. We will be celebrat- fingers?   Just curious.    I would have told them to leave and not
       ing our third anniversary this December. Our problem is   come back till they know how to act in a civil manor.  Forget the
       not with us, it is with both sets of our parents.        holidays with them,  and go take that cruise.  If they want to
                                                                know why, tell them the truth.  And by the way, you might want
       Last year they both totally ruined our Thanksgiving. Both   to get them copies of Emily Post and Ms Manners books for
       sets of our parents live in the North and Northeast so they   Christmas, and tell them to read cover to cover.
       love coming to Galveston this time of year. They have all
       advised us that they plan on coming and staying with us for     Hello Debra,
       Thanksgiving again this year. Our house is plenty large         Well, I see your question got Jan all fired up.  This is a
       enough so that isn't our problem. Our problem is our par-       situation that goes on with thousands of families every
       ents do not like or get along with each other. They make   year when the holidays roll around. There is really no easy solu-
       absolutely no effort to try to get along.                tion to this problem. Anyway you decide on this peoples feelings
                                                                are going to be hurt. I am going to say you go with some "tough
       They argue about everything! They fight over what to     love."
       watch on television. It's even impossible to watch the news
       in the evening because they argue over every subject re-  I feel the exact opposite of Jan on this. ( What else is new?) I
       ported on. They argue over who is going to get what they   would give them one more chance. Make it very clear to every-
       think is the best room in our house. Last year "Tom"     one involved that this is their last chance. Tell them loud and
       cooked a fabulous Thanksgiving dinner and they totally   clear that their constant arguing and bickering ruined your last
       ruined it. They got on the subject of politics at our dinner   Thanksgiving. Also, tell them that since they are family and you
       table and the argument turned very loud and ugly. Loud   love them they are getting this one last chance.
       shouts and name calling even. It got so bad that "Tom"   I would lay out the rules. Spell out exactly the behavior that is
       got up and just left our table and wouldn't come back. He   required and expected of everyone. There is absolutely no reason
       didn't get to enjoy one bite of our dinner. I was in tears. I   at all that families can not get along if the effort is made to do
       don't think we are being selfish by wanting to enjoy our   so. Tell everyone how much this means to you. If they ignore
       Thanksgiving without them being here. "Tom" says we      your wishes again this Thanksgiving after they have been put on
       should just tell them all that we are going on a cruise for   notice, then you are entirely within your rights to pull the plug
       Thanksgiving and won't be home. I don't feel like lying to   and say "that's it, and never again!"
       them. They are our parents after all.
                                                                I truly hope families that are experiencing this situation give it
       What can be done about this? We don't want another       some serious thought. Family is and should be important to all
       Thanksgiving ruined by our constantly arguing parents. I   of us. Respect each other. Hoping you have a very nice Thanks-
       want to be in our home for the holiday and not feel like I   giving and Happy Thanksgiving to all.
       should have to run off to someplace else just to avoid them.
       Help!   Distressed Debra.

              Okay, I usually leave the nasty comments for Dean.  But
              I have to speak up.  First, the good thing is that it
              doesn’t seem like you inherited your parents bad behav-

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                                                       You just might have your question answered next month.
             Go to Wavesgalveston.com & ask away.  You just might have your question answered next month.

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