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With Jan & Dean

Dear Jan and Dean, and she doesn't want to be drug down that road beside you.
My finance and I are getting married in a couple of Think about that.
months. As of now, we both have separate bank ac- Finally, I will say that this is something that needs to be resolved
counts. When I get married I want to make it joint, where before any marriage takes place. If it isn't you are in for a rough
we both put our incomes into one pot, so to speak. Susie is and rocky ride.
dead set against it. She is the total opposite about this. I
will also add that I make a lot more money than she does Hi Danny. How long has she been out on her own? It
so I don't see what her problem is. Help!
might be she is an independent woman and wants to
Danny is Distressed keep it that way. I don't want to be rude about this,
that is Dean's department, but do you really know how much
Oh Danny Boy, oh Danny Boy, you are experiencing money she makes? She might actually make a lot more mon-
one of the top five arguments in a relationship. The top ey than you do. I think you need to accept and respect what she
five are Free Time, Money, Housekeeping, Physical In- wants in this manner or you might need to postpone your wed-
timacy and Extended Family. As you can see, money is one of ding vows until you two can come to a total agreement on this.
the big ones. I'm with Dean, money matters are one of the biggest problems
in a marriage. One more point, how has it been working out the
way it's been going so far with separate bank accounts? Serious-
There could be many reasons why your lady wants separate and
ly, if it has been working well the way it currently is why change
not joint bank accounts. One, she may have way more money
than you know about and she wants to be sure and keep it that things? If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
way. She might want you in the complete dark as far as her
finances are concerned. Not to be mean spirited but you might
also have one of the "What's yours is ours and what's mine is
mine" types. That one can be a killer. If that happens to be the
case you might want to reconsider this relationship because
that is just the person she is and it won't change.

On the other side of the coin (pun intended) there could also be
another reason that doesn't fall on your lady but falls right on
top on you Danny Boy. Maybe, even though she loves you
enough to marry you and share her life with you, she doesn't
trust you in how you handle your personal finances. Maybe she
has witnessed first hand you being totally reckless and wasteful
with your money. Maybe she knows you are constantly broke

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