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Hi Jan and Dean,
ello Terry. Not a surprise that I am going to
We have a situation at home, where my husband and Hdisagree with Jan again. I’m going to provide
I disagree and want your opinions. When has senior you with some simple math. If your daughter had
year and graduation become so expensive and extrav- worked part time, only 10 hours a week, for only
agant? My daughter just graduated from high school 12 weeks a year, at an $8 per hour wage, she would
and the spending seems to never stop. Not counting have made $960 per year. Multiply that by 4 years
homecoming, and all the other proms, there was Spring of high school and your Princess would have had $3840 in
break to Hilton Head. Just recently was the Senior Prom. the bank at the time of her graduation and been able to pay
She picked an extremely expensive evening dress, had for her own trip.
to have her hair, makeup, eyelash extensions done by
a professional. Then the limousine to take them to an Yes, enough is enough. Even if you can afford it, I would not
expensive dinner before the dance, and then an all-night do it. One thing you didn’t mention, which may have changed
party at a downtown hotel. I can’t tell you how much my answer, is did your daughter truly appreciate and thank
money we have spent. Now she is coming to us and you for everything you have done for her, or is she in the “I
saying that all of her click of friends are going to do a am entitled” category? I am guessing she fits right into the “ I
graduation trip to Cabo! I’m serious. And with college am entitled” group. I’m going to pull a Nancy Reagan and tell
tuition coming around the corner?? She says that all of you to “Just Say No.”
her best friends are going and that this is the last time
that they will all be together. That they will go their sep-
arate paths after graduation and they leave for different
schools. So I ask, when is enough, enough? Have we
put out too much already? We will go by your decision.

- Terry is Tapped Out.

ell Terry, it sounds like you have done a lot
Wfor your daughter. I know there is peer pres-
sure, and also by other parents letting their children
get what they want. When this extravagance began,
I have no idea, but it has gotten out of hand. But
since you went along and let this happen, I would
say that if you can afford it, let her go. It really is the last
time that they will be close. But put your foot down, and say,
when in college, she is on her own other than dorm and food
expenses. Maybe tell her to get a part time job to earn
her spending money. I realize that she is used to getting
everything she wants, and that she might be baffled by this
idea, but make it stick.
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