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i Jan and Dean. I’m writing be- on a business meeting and that neither of ello Debbie. This is go-
cause I had a disturbing experi- their spouses were aware of their affair. ing to be one of those
Hence that totally ruined my New She even went so far as to tell me that she Hrare situations where I
Years Eve. My husband and I decided we loved both her husband and boyfriend. am going to agree with Jan. Stay
would host a New Years Eve party. We She says my neighbor feels exactly the completely away from this situa-
invited lots of close friends and neighbors. same way that she does. Okay, so here tion. It’s toxic. You have a lot to
Everything was really going great until is my question. I really like both of their lose and absolutely nothing to gain by getting
I witnessed something horrible. It was spouses a lot and I think they have a right involved in all of this. I don’t understand why
getting close to midnight so I decided to know what is going on. This decep- you would want to unless you are one of those
to head to the powder room and refresh tion is driving me crazy. I really want to unfortunate types that just love to meddle and
myself before the midnight New Years tell their spouses everything that I know. stir things up.
countdown started. I didn’t want to miss Should I?
out on anything. Well I sure didn’t miss You take sides on this and you are going to
out on anything, that’s for sure. - Debbie Is Distressed. alienate a lot of your close friends one way or
the other. This is a no win area. Who knows,
As I started to walk into the powder room ello Debbie, I can see they may all work everything out with each
I noticed that the door was slightly ajar. how it might hurt that other and then the only one they are going to
I wasn’t for sure if anyone was in there Hyour best girlfriend didn’t be mad at is you. Keep your promise to your
or not so I took a slight look inside to confide in you and tell you about husband and just keep quiet. Seems like that
check. That is when my mouth dropped all of this before you found out on is a hard thing for you to do but work on it. It
to the floor. I saw by best girlfriend who your own. I can sure see why she might actually work wonders for you.
is married kissing our neighbor who also didn’t. She knows you well enough to know
happens to be married. I’m not talking that you aren’t capable of being quiet about it.
about a little peck on the cheek. I saw a I must admit, her keeping it a secret from you
very passionate, full fledged kiss. I was in as long as she did was pretty good on her part.
complete shock! I didn’t even know they I will ask you this Debbie, does both your girl-
knew each other. I ran back into our living friend and your neighbor appear to be happy
room and tried to act like I hadn’t seen a when they are together with their spouses?
thing. Needless to say, my evening wasn’t If so, don’t say a word. Do you sense tension
the same after witnessing what I saw. between your girlfriend and your neighbor
when they are together with their spouses? If
After everyone left, I was crying and told so, don’t say a word. Get the picture? Keep
my husband. He was just as shocked as quiet and stay out of it. Maybe both of their
me. The next morning, we discussed the spouses already know about it anyway and for
situation over breakfast and decided to let whatever reason aren’t currently wishing for a
it go and keep things to ourselves. confrontation at this time. Please just stay out
of it Debbie. You tell all that you know and
I finally changed my mind. I just couldn’t you risk losing your best friend, great neigh-
let it go. I confronted my best girlfriend bors, and cause friction with your own hus-
and told her exactly what I had seen her band for telling when you agreed you wouldn’t.
doing. She totally admitted to me that yes, I can tell you are about to bust, but zip it!
her and my neighbor had been an item
for several months. She told me they met

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