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Hi Jan and Dean. I need your opinion on something where physical things she was able to do during these months. I think
my husband and I disagree. We have been married for he should accommodate your wish. After all, in this day and
three years now, and would like to start a family. We are age, couples are saying “we” are pregnant. Well, “we” should
both social drinkers, and like our cocktail before dinner quit drinking together.
most nights. The problem is, is that I feel that if I give up
drinking for nine months, and while nursing, then he This doesn’t have to do with breaking an ankle, and playing
should too. After all, I’m the one carrying the baby, going golf. We are talking about two people uniting to have this won-
through the uncomfortable months and pain. The least he derful child.
can do is be by my side and curtail his drinking since I
can’t. I don’t feel I’m being selfish. He refuses. He can eas- How important this is to you to have him quit drinking? You
ily quit along with me. I don’t care if we go out and other need to come to a compromise and understanding before bring-
people drink in front of me, but I feel that this is a joint ef- ing a child into your union.
fort, so to speak, and he should go along with me for the
long-haul. I must bring this up Hannah. Maybe your husband is being
stubborn because he might have a drinking problem, and can’t
~ Unhappy Hannah stop. You need to seriously hope this isn’t the case, but you
might need to have a heart to heart with him before you go
Hello Hannah, you aren't going to like my advice on ahead with the pregnancy.
this one. I am just not of the belief that if one spouse
can't do something then the other spouse shouldn't be
able to either. This seems a little on the selfish side to me. If
your man is a good husband and is the nurturing type why
would you mind if he enjoyed a drink from time to time? It cer-
tainly doesn't affect the health or well being of your child if he
enjoys a cold beer while watching a football game from time to
time.
Let me give you an example: you and your husband both love to
play golf. He breaks his ankle and can't play for several months.
Should he tell you to absolutely refrain from playing a game you
love just because he can't? Just makes no sense to me.
Try and be a little less controlling and I am pretty sure your hus-
band will be by your side every step of the way during your preg-
nancy. Hoping you two resolve this and you have a happy
household and a healthy baby.

Well, Hannah, I’m going to agree with you. This is a
couple’s agreement to start a family. I’m going to be a
feminist here. The woman goes through a lot during
and after the birth of a child. Her body changes, she doesn’t get
to have a drink, has to watch what she eats, and can’t do the

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